Stop Bringing Up Mistakes From The Past.

‘Forgive and forget,’ ‘let bygone be bygone.’

We have all heard this over and over and even said it over and over at one time or the other. Is

this really a true saying or just something we say to fill up the gap while our mind is busy adding

and subtracting.

Someone said ‘it is easy to forgive but difficult to forget.’ Another one said ‘you can forgive but

don’t ever forget.’ what then should be the right approach?

A husband came to me and complained, ‘I really love my wife but each time we have and

argument she seems to lose focus of what we are arguing about and begins to say a lot of

hurtful things, she will bring up my mistakes from the past, she will talk nonstop over me even

when I try to make a point. We end up hating each other more and nothing is ever resolved.’

Yet, another lady said, ‘I caught my husband in adultery, I have forgiven him but I have to keep

reminding him from time to time of the big thing I forgave him of, so that he doesn’t do it


This is a typical case of what is going on in most relationship. We try to hold on to our spouses

mistakes, why? Let the truth be told, so that we can manipulate them and subject them to our

will. In our mind, that is what we want to achieve but in reality, we end up hurting ourselves the

more and creating a bigger gap in an already shaky relationship.

Joseph named his first son Manasseh (forget) ‘because God has made me to forget all my

trouble.’ And his second son Ephraim (double prosperity) ‘because God has made me fruitful in

the land of my suffering.’ (Genesis41:51, 52). Joseph did it.

Yes, I can say that it is possible to forgive and forget. However we cannot do it on our own, we

need the help of the Holy Spirit. I will share with us 4 things I do to close the door on any wrong

or mistake and open new one for prosperity.

 Refuse to live like a victim, stop looking for sympathy and start looking for solution

 Isolate every particular present issue from the past issue

 Allow perfect love to heal the hurt and scar

 Ask God to use you to reach out to others too.

Consciously learn to forget. I am not promising an easy road but with your mind focused on

‘love does not keep record of wrongs,’ you will make it.

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