It’s not every time that couples automatically bond and become great friends. Sometimes, they have to learn the ropes, overcome obstacles and make resolve within themselves that even if it is not all that smooth today, they will put their best foot forward and walk towards a more glorious future than they have presently.
Here are three ways a couple can waltz their way into great bonding with one another.
Men, your wife wants to talk about her feelings, problems and concerns with you. A Woman’s search for closeness with her spouse prompts her to talk, to want to share her inmost desires and thoughts with her husband.She may not really be talking with you for you to give her solutions but her desire is for you to give her your ear, making effort to understand her and letting her know that you don’t mind her talking.
Husband, if you want to be your wife’s best friend, just give her a listening ear. Listen to those things that might seem outdated and frivolous and might have no direct bearing to the reality on ground. Just listen! Sometimes too, she talks reality. She talks about the kid’s challenges and the progress being made by each child.
The point here, man, is to get your wife to a state, where she can feel free to talk with you about anything, where she will feel that you accept her feelings and value her as someone worth listening to. You will end up producing a closeness and intimacy that knows no bounds between you two. Marriage is indeed beautiful and you can be your wife’s best friend.
The wife should not allow her ‘let’s talk’ to be too numerous and cumbersome to her husband. Let’s talk should not be an everyday affair and should be regarded more as a business meeting between the husband and the wife and should be approached with a seriousness it deserves. Watch for the right moment, the right mood and choose the right words. Don’t trivialize it by waking your husband up in the night to discuss what he will love to have for breakfast.
Trust is earned. Trust is not earned by sweet words and wonderful gifts. Trust is earned in a relationship by open and truthful communication. A Beautiful marriage has a way of overcoming serious challenges. Life can throw so many things our way as married couples. Financial pressures are there, challenges with the kids and the numerous dramas associated with marital experience. A beautiful marriage can always hold its own where the man has decided to be honest with his wife about finances, his time and the challenges he is facing. When a woman is honest to the point of telling her husband what made her cry and smile. But a marriage cannot survive dishonesty and lack of trust.
PLEASE SHOW UP
It was zig zigler who once said that “many marriages would be better off if the wife and the husband clearly understood that they are on the same side. Great couples understand that There is nothing like ‘I win, you lose’ in marriage. We are teammates playing on the same side. When you win, I win. When you lose, I lose.
The man should understand that he is playing on the same side as his wife. His wife is his partner and supporter. He in turn should provide leadership for the family. The man is the one that gives the family vision to live by and directions to follow. Every woman cherishes, a man who is family oriented and does not shy away from fatherly roles. When a man takes his family to that great height, where the wife and children see it as fun to be together, as a family, the man has peeled his onions very well. Woman, do you take care of your home as if it’s your treasure. Does your husband feel your impact in the home? Is food ready when it should? Is your home organized. Is there a woman in the house?
When a woman knows, and works towards making her home, a peaceful and quiet place, a castle where her man will feel safe and comfortable to stay in always, The atmosphere in this home will make the man to cherish every moment he spends in his home with his queen, and anytime he is away, he will always longingly look forward to the time he will get the chance to step foot in his home again to be with his queen.
Show up as a husband, show up as a wife.
Marriage is beautiful!
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