focusWhy do we beat ourselves up over relationship issues? Why do we experience uncountable meltdowns

because our spouse hurt our feeling or we’ve had an argument with our husband or a friend hurt our

feelings or our children act uncontrollably?

The truth is: the Bible offers us help for every relationship struggle we face. Focusing on that

truth and letting it direct our actions, sure will be a helping tool as it has been helping me lately.”

1corrinthians 13: 3-7(MSG) should be a love handy tool for every couple:

 ‘So no matter what I say, what I believe, and what I do, I am bankrupt without love.

 Love never gives up.

 Love cares more for others than for self.

 Love doesn’t have a swelled head, doesn’t force itself on others, isn’t always me first,

 Love doesn’t fly off the handle.

 Love doesn’t keep score of sins of others.

 Love takes pleasure in the flowering of truth.

 Love puts up with anything,

 Love trusts God always,

 Love always looks for the best,

 Love never looks back but keeps going to the end.

 Love never dies.

It is so easy to entertain dangerous thoughts during emotional times so we have to be really

cautious. Instead of beating ourselves up or allow those feeling of inadequacy to creep in and

control us, we should rather determine to park our mind in one or two points I mentioned above

from 1corinthians 13.

Focusing on one truth daily about love will make us not only loving but will also make our

spouse to respond to our love. How about focusing on ‘love never gives up’ today or ‘love

always looks for the best’. I tell you, even the toughest struggle will begin to ease off.

Never leave your marriage up to chance or luck. Make the choice everyday to invest wisely in

your marriage.

If you want good communication, then you have to set the scene for times that you and your

spouse can really talk. Not just debriefing about the events of the day but taking time to dream

together, plan together, laugh together and grow together.

When we invest energy and time into marriage, it begins to work the way it’s supposed to.

Remember also that the real power-source for any marriage comes from getting into and

focusing on God’s Word and letting His Word get into you!


  1. Mochama Ombogo

    This post has come up at the right time in my life when I and my spouse were indeed down. It has been a revelation unto us. This has been a heavenly revelation. It’s Waaaauu!!!!

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